So if you came across this video, you probably came across this video by typing into a search engine, “How to Deal with Haters”, or something to that extent.
I want to challenge you to quite possibly deal with haters a little bit differently than you have in the past. You see just because someone has bad intentions; it doesn’t mean that they’re bad for us. I believe that just because someone has bad intentions it doesn’t mean that they are bad for us. I actually believe that God can use bad intentions and the circumstances surrounding them to make us better. That’s what this series of videos is about. How haters help.
[Scene from the Motion Picture “The Color Purple”]
Look at you you’re black, you’re poor, you’re ugly, you’re a woman, you’re nothing at ALL!– Mister (Danny Glover)
“til you do right by me, everything you even think about is gonna fail!”– Miss Ceily (Whoopi Goldberg)
This is going to be a four-part series and each video is will have a study guide attached to them. [The link is in the description] Everybody doesn’t know this, but success and haters go hand-in-hand. Nobody who’s made any significant impact in our world has done so without haters telling them that they’ll never be able to do it. No matter what you set out to do somebody’s going to have a problem with it; which says to me if you don’t have haters you’re probably doing something wrong. But I don’t believe that haters should necessarily be dealt with as much as we should take the situation that haters create and see how they can make us even better.
One of the most powerful and triumphant stories that I’ve ever heard was about a young man who overcame impossible odds. He went from being sold into slavery by his own family members to one of the most powerful people in the world. This young man was hated and despised simply because he was gifted. His own brothers hated him so much that they wanted to kill him. If you’re familiar with the Bible you may realize that this is the biblical story of Joseph, which is found from the 37th to the 50th chapter of the Book of Genesis. And as Joseph’s story continues to unfold it only gets worse.
He was sold into slavery, wrongfully accused of attempted rape, and then he landed prison. (and) Look I can only imagine how hard it must have been on him. (and) the part of Joseph’s story that I haven’t shared yet; prior to being sold into slavery he thought God was going to use him to do something great. What a tragic turn of events right? I mean to go from, “God is going to do something great in your life” to the captivity that he experienced for 13 years. Speaking from my own experiences, I would have wallowed in self-pity asking God, “Why me?” Perhaps even praying the prayer of the psalmist, “Oh Lord, why do You stand so far away; why do You hide when I am in trouble”. Have you ever found yourself saying those words or perhaps something similar? Maybe your prayers weren’t as poetic as a psalmist, but you’ve prayed something like, “God, please help me shake these haters off.”
The term hater is used quite often in our culture and I’m sure Joseph could have identified with some of us. When we have people hate on us for no apparent reason. Now listen, I do believe that some of us are overly sensitive and we categorize people as haters prematurely. But that’s another story for another time. Today, I want to address those of us who have legitimate haters and highlight how God can use our haters to help us. My prayer is by the time we finish these videos how haters help you will be able to embrace the haters in your life as a way to draw closer to God.
Fast-forwarding Joseph’s story… when he had the opportunity to put haters in their place after he rose to a position of power he chose not to. He would rather have looked at what they did to him, from God’s perspective and not his own. If we read Genesis chapter 15 verses 17 through 21 this is what it says
Say to Joseph, Please forgive the transgression of your brothers and their sin, because they did evil to you. And now, please forgive the transgression of the servants of the God of your father. Joseph wept when they spoke to him. His brothers also came and fell down before him and said, Behold, we are your servants. But Joseph said to them, Do not fear, for am I in the place of God? As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today. So do not fear; I will provide for you and your little ones. Thus he comforted them and spoke kindly to them.Genesis 50:17-21
One of the things that we often say about God is His ways are mysterious but guess what they’re always right. At times it might be appearing that He’s turning His back on you or not listening to your cries, but you can rest assured that in those dark times God doesn’t do anything without a purpose. What He is purposed to do; is to, mature your faith, and transform us into men and women who live like Christ. As Chuck Swindoll says, “He is more concerned with our character than our comfort”. We must learn that character is built when we go through our dark times. You see anybody can curse and yell when haters do what they do. Haven’t you heard? Haters are gonna hate. But a person who has had their character developed can find peace and wisdom in the midst of the chaos around them. Listen, haters ultimately help us. And don’t forget the links are in the description. If this is your first time here consider liking, commenting subscribing. So that you can see the other videos in this series.
Don’t forget to know God, love others, and show it. Peace.